“6 Questions with…” is an opportunity for women and girls everywhere to share something about their passions and lives. (It’s also a fantastic excuse for me to be really nosey and learn from of the some amazing women I’ve met.)
This week I’m putting Samantha Sali in the hot seat. A first-time mum, Samantha somehow manages to balance looking after her family, running a blog, and spending time with God. I’ll let her introduce herself in her own words…
1) Tell us a little bit about yourself and where you come from. Paint a picture of yourself.
Well, I’m currently writing this while my 9-month-old takes his second nap of the day. I’m a first-time mother & it’s required me to really prioritize things. I’ve been a writer and published author for a few years now, so before my son was born, I could write whenever my imagination sparked. Now, I pretty much have to force myself to write during naptime because otherwise I’ll never find time to do it.
I’ve been writing my entire life – first while in school, transitioning to a journal & then finally a blog. It’s been extremely helpful & actually therapeutic. When you meet me & I’m forced to converse, I feel I don’t sound nearly as smart. I don’t have social anxiety or anything, I just have a harder time verbalizing my words versus putting them on paper. I’m a great public speaker, if I have my words written on paper in front of me. I’m bad at arguments unless I write it down. I’m bad at expressing my feelings until I write a letter. I used to really despise that part of me because it caused a lot of problems in my life – I never spoke up when the need arose. But I’m happy to say that through writing, I’ve found that courage I wished for as a young girl. Some tell me I hide behind my words, but I’d say the opposite is true because putting all of your problems and struggles on paper, it’s right in front of you, staring you in the face. Someone who isn’t a writer can more easily compress their issues internally.
2) You talk about God laying out a path that was completely different to the future you imagined. What did the future you want look like in comparison to your life now?
I imagined traveling the world – single, free, making an impact, helping people. When God had a different plan for me – a plan to be a writer, a mother, a wife, a sister, friend…it was…hard to take at first. I grew up being told God had a plan for my life but I was also told that I’m in charge of my own future. I was taught that I can have any dream that I wanted to pursue. I guess my dreams sort of became true, though not exactly how I expected. I’m not single or traveling the world, but I hope to think that I’m changing the world & helping people through my writing. And of course, I wouldn’t trade my role as a wife and mother for anything in the world.
3) One of my friends has just had her first baby boy. What advice would you give to a new mum?
Congratulations! It’s such a big transition & a hard one at that! I think motherhood can be rewarding and fulfilling, but I think it’s also filled with a little darkness & struggle. Don’t be afraid to admit when you need help – someone to pick up the chores, a friend to vent to, a gentle hand to rock the baby while you nap. And don’t be afraid to admit that you don’t have it all together. In this social media world we live in, we make this assumption that our friends have the perfect life & the perfect kids, but they don’t. None of us do. You’re not a bad mom for locking yourself in the bathroom and crying for a few minutes – or for eating pizza for the 3rd night in a row. We’ve all been there. Just be honest & lean towards some transparency in your life.
4) Along with being a mum and wife, you’re training to go into women’s ministry. How do you find the time to fit two demanding roles into your life and still spend time with God?
Like I said before, I’ve really had to learn how to prioritize. God, my husband, and son come first…always. If there is a day where I can’t find time to work on writing or ministry, then I just leave it be & try not to stress about it. When I do find time, my husband jumps in and it’s wonderful to have him supporting all my ventures. My role as a believer & wife/mother take precedent over everything else. If it ends up taking me years to get that ministry certification, so be it…though I really hope I can get it done sooner than later.
5) You’ve watched The True Cost, which is an amazing documentary and totally heart breaking. How has it affected your relationship with clothes on a daily basis?
I am a very sympathetic person. I end up feeling guilt about everything. I can’t look at my son without thinking about all the children who have no loving mothers. I can’t buy chocolate without thinking about the farmer who makes less than a cent for it. I can’t buy clothes without thinking of the laborers who make them. I don’t have enough money to buy new clothes from fair companies, so I normally just try to buy used clothes. Recently, I have started exchanging our household products for safer, healthier, fair trade items because it’s not too much of a price difference. I cannot wait to buy clothes from a good-cause company! And I highly recommend everyone watch The True Cost (on Netflix) & really research the companies they buy from.
6) At CC.CC. it’s all about combining food, fashion and the rest of life with our faith. How do you combine your faith with your life on a daily basis?
I try to start my day in prayer, journaling, and bible reading. If I can, I’ll read the bible passages out loud to my son while he plays on the floor. Throughout the day, I’ll just add in other ways I can increase my worship to Him – sometimes it’s listening to a podcast or reading a book by Francis Chan or something – other days I’ll jam to some music. Just last night, while I was feeding my son dinner, I cranked the tunes and we sang and danced to Rend Collective Experiment and Matt Redman. When I have extra time in the day, I often sway towards She Reads Truth, If:Gathering, and/or Propel Women. It’s through the little things that I find time for Jesus – my lock screen on my phone with a bible verse, the prayer I have taped to my son’s highchair, the Wild & Free Anthem I have on my computer background:
“The world may tell us we’re too much and never enough. But we can walk wildly in who God created us to be and rest freely in the work Jesus did for us. We do not have to be confined or conformed by cultural expectations.
We are unchained from our past and unafraid of our future.
We choose compassion over comparison.
We love without condition, without reserve.
Our eyes are on God; we hold nothing back; we run fast and strong; we do not hide our light.
We aren’t wild and free for our sake alone; rather we sing life, hope, and truth over the world with abandon—just as our God sings over us.
We are wild and free.
And we are poised to do mighty things, in Christ alone.”
It’s things like this that really help inspires me in my life – in my walk with the Lord, as I pursue a writing career, as I balance being a wife & mother & friend…and it encourages me to continue using the gifts God gave me.
You can check out more of Samantha’s writings over on her blog: samanthasali.com.
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